This should be considered as opinion, as I am an American living in Korea, and there's only so much I understand. As always, if you have anything to add, share, or enlighten me about, please leave a comment or shoot me a message :)
So... Anyone who has walked down the streets or watched a Korean drama has probably seen couples in matching clothes. Sometimes it's the same colors, sometimes it's the same shirt and same type of pants. HOWEVER. I have seen couples with the same hair color, shirt, pants, and shoes. No longer a 'we belong to each other' statement, but more of a 'we are each other' statement, haha. When I first came to Korea and saw this, I thought it was absurd. Same type of jacket- okay. Same color- if you must. Same outfit in all of its entirety- WHY?! But now I think it's kind of cute. Not the 'we are each other' couples so much, but the matchy-matchy shirts.
Have I ever donned couple clothes? Nope. Will I ever don couple clothes? I can't imagine it. I think I'd be blushing constantly. I mean, as an American child, my friends and I would mock the old, married couples with their matching patriotic sweaters. How could I become that?! Not to mention that if I ever did wear matchy-matchy clothing, my sister would probably laugh till she cried, and my best friend would be rolling in a fit of laughter. At least their hearts would be happy.
But that's just one thing. Relationships here are less stifled, at least between the couple. American guys have this macho, nacho, tough-guy, bro-knows-no-feelings thing to live up to as the standard, and that doesn't exist here. From what I've seen, even outside of relationships, people here are much more honest with their feelings in general. You won't see someone telling off their boss, but you probably won't end up wondering what your friend is thinking.
This carries over into relationships. They'll get as mushy as they please, and as angry as they please. For me, though, it's a little different. My boyfriend and I do not speak the same language. How can you get your point across if you're yelling angrily? The opposite party won't understand. I mean, it's creepy if you yell slowly. I also tend to turn into a bit of a human dictionary when I'm miffed.
But it's nice, though... This idea and practice of being honest with your feelings.
Another part of dating and relationships is celebrating your time together! Here in Korea, there are many opportunities to do so. Many, many, many opportunities. So many, that I'll make a list. Here we go:
Big Deals:
Feb 14, Valentine's Day: Girl, go get your man and give him some chocolate
Mar 14, White Day: Fellas- If you like her, treat her to something sweet back
Apr 14, Black Day: Don't worry, singles! There's a day for you, too. Go eat noodles in a black sauce with your other single friends. (You gotta admit that it's better than crying
Nov 11, Peppero Day: Buy and give Peppero (Japan makes something similar- pocky)
Not-so-Big Deals:
Jan 14, Diary Day: Exchange planners with all your special days marked inside~
May 14, Rose Day: Give 'em a rose!
Jun 14, Kiss Day: You should be able to kiss those you love.
Jul 14, Silver Day: Couple exchange rings or silver things as a promise
Aug 14, Green Day: Couples play with nature, and singles down soju (the bottle's green)
Sept 14, Photo Day: Let's go someplace romantic and capture it on camera!
Oct 14, Wine Day: October is a good time to drink wine, I think.
Nov 14, Movie Day: Walk hand-in-hand to that cinema and watch something bad/cute/scary?
Dec 14, Hug Day: "Baby, it's cold outside~", so let's hug ^^
And there you have it. The 14th of every month can be a special, fun day for a couple!
Now, if you notice June 14th, you'll see the word, 'ring'. Yes. They buy and wear matching rings, and no, it's not a proposal. This is something I could never imagine happening in an American relationship. Asking a man to wear a matching ring with me would send him running away faster than Wile E chasing Road Runner. But here, it's something cute. It's a promise.
Some couples give these rings on other days, too. Maybe Valentine's day or your 100th day.
In America, we count the months. "Jan! We've been together for SIX MONTHS. We're totally getting married!" (I made my boyfriend come over on our six month-iversary to cook him dinner. No shame.)
But here in Korea they celebrate days. 100 days, 200 days, 300 days, 1000 days... It's a cute way to mark milestones, I think. I guess on your 100 days, people give you 100 won (ten cents?), 200 won on your 200 days... And so on.
Today is my 200! Haha :)
There is more to a relationship than this, but it's difficult for me to try and sum up something like how an entire culture is in general. There are good things, bad things, whatever things... But it's your relationship, so make it yours. Celebrate what you want, wear what you want, say what you want.
There's chicken in the other room, so I need to go now. But I'd like to do a part two somewhere down the road.
Till next time~
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